I am rereading some of a book I coauthored 30 years ago.
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There is a section we called “Listening to Yourself’ and used the term ’Self Talk.’
We all have conversations in our head.
Much of what we hear is the instruction we heard from our parents and others who have influenced our lives.
Some of it is positive:
Various things such as
“I can learn to do things.”
“Though it’s undeserved, I know that I am loved by God.”
“Mistakes are not fatal.”
“I need to know which things just have to be done and which things need to be done the best I can do.”
“I can ask for help.”
“By grace, I belong.”
Some of our self-talk is negative.
For those who have endured abusive treatment or trauma these thoughts are pervasive. These are a few of the thoughts of people who are struggling, compiled by working with veterans affected by PTSD.
As you read this list, listen for the tone of voice you associate with this.
I don’t deserve love. I’m not lovable. I must earn love.
I am not good enough. I must prove myself.
I am worthless.
I am shameful. I must redeem self.
I am stupid [insignificant, a failure, a disappointment.]
I have done something unforgivable.
I should have done ________________ .
Etc.
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In some situations, perhaps all of us have had these thoughts pass through our heads. For those traumatized, the thoughts don’t just pass— these types of negative thoughts are a constant battle.
Two things:
1) Be compassionate with others. You don’t know their inner battle.
2) We need to guard our hearts against these self-condemning thoughts.
Recognize the tone of voice in your heard and immediately go to what God has declared.
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Without God’s Grace, we are left to be enslaved
by harsh internal condemnation.
We must learn to stand
in God’s grace (Romans 5:2).
Remember that
“He chose you to live in the grace that Christ has provided.”
(Galatians 1:6)
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“We can go to God being
Cynthia Heald, My Creator, My Confidant
confident that what we reveal about ourselves will be
UNDERSTOOD
and that our God
with whom we disclose ourselves will
ACCEPT us,
seek our (BEST INTEREST) good,
and COMMUNICATE
support and love.”
I teach this as UABC.
God
Understands us,
Accepts us,
seeks our Best interest,
Communicates love and support.
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“Casting the whole of your care
(1 Peter 5:7 Amplified)
[all your anxieties,
all your worries, all your concerns,
once and for all]
on Him, for He cares for you
affectionately and
cares about you watchfully.”
